Embracing Change: A Journey of Growth

When I was a kid, I remember how much I struggled with change. Some of my friends moved to another city, and I would feel so emotional that I often cried. I recall losing my grandfather, and the sadness stayed with me for months. Later in life, after getting married, I missed my parents and siblings terribly, and there were many moments when tears would roll down my cheeks. Change has never been easy for me, and I know I’m not alone in feeling this way.  

But why is change so hard? Why do we resist it so much?  

Most of us have a natural tendency to resist change, even though it is one of the few constants in life. Change is inevitable, life evolves, circumstances shift, and time moves forward. The question is not whether change will happen, but how we can learn to cope with it.  

When we think about change, it can be divided into two types: good or positive change and bad or negative change. Good changes, like learning new skills, gaining new knowledge, or experiences, implementing good habits, getting a new job or moving to a better home, are often easier to embrace. They bring excitement and hope. On the other hand, bad changes, like losing a loved one, facing unexpected loss or challenges, or dealing with setbacks, can be much harder to accept.  

When I look back and reflect, I realize that kids who had to move frequently or change schools often became more adaptable to change. They were exposed to both types of changes, good and bad, and learned how to adjust quickly. Similarly, children who faced adversity or uncomfortable situations at a young age often grew up with a greater ability to handle life’s ups and downs.  

So, can we learn to adapt to change? Absolutely! It’s not always easy, but it’s possible. One of the best ways to become more adaptable is by stepping out of our comfort zones. When we intentionally put ourselves in new or unfamiliar situations, we develop resilience and the ability to adapt.  

For the harder changes, the ones that feel painful or overwhelming, the "letting go" technique can be incredibly helpful. Letting go doesn’t mean giving up; it means releasing the need to control everything and trusting the process of life. It’s about accepting that some things are beyond our control and finding peace in that acceptance.  

I believe that change, though challenging, is also an opportunity for growth. It teaches us to be stronger, more flexible, and more understanding. When I look back on the changes I’ve faced in life, I realize they’ve shaped me into the person I am today. They’ve taught me the value of love, kindness, patience, resilience, forgiveness, and gratitude for the things that remain constant.  

So the next time you face change, whether it’s big or small, remember that you’re not alone in feeling uneasy. Take a deep breath, trust yourself, and know that every change brings with it a chance to grow and discover new possibilities. After all, life is a journey of constant evolution, and embracing change is one of the best ways to live it fully.